Have you got low self-esteem?

large-1By Jasmine Lee,

Many teenagers these days have a low self-esteem. What is a low self-esteem, you may ask? Low self-esteem is when a person has a lack of confidence to do something or think negatively about themselves. “I’m too short”, “I’m too fat” and “If only I were taller/smarter/more confident/had long hair/curly hair, I’d be ecstatic” sound familiar? That’s because these are what teenagers with low self-esteem might say.

The causes of low self-esteem include:

  • Failing to meet parent/friend/teacher’s standards
  • Being judged because of appearance/intellect
  • Being neglected by friends
  • Not getting the appearance you want

Signs that you have low self-esteem:

  • Feeling worthless/useless
  • Feeling unloved
  • Having more negative views of self than others
  • Comparing self with others
  • Loathing your thoughts and actions

Do you have low self-esteem? If so, here’s how to boost your self-esteem.

  • Accept your strengths and weaknesses – write down the things you like and don’t like about yourself, also, write down the things that you’re thankful for, and soon, you will then start feeling better about yourself
  • Exercise – exercising can help you release stress, and make you feel accomplished.
  • Stay positive – cut off all negative thoughts and stop comparing yourself to others.
  • Good posture – practice good posture and you’ll feel confident about yourself

Keep practicing these and you’ll soon have a better self-esteem. Also, remember that it’s not what’s on the outside that’s important, it’s what on the inside, a mirror can lie as it doesn’t show you what’s on the inside. I hope this helps, good luck!

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One thought on “Have you got low self-esteem?

  1. Dear,,

    Hi.. please introduce myself,,I am Cho Ryeon Hwang, Asian,24 years old. I am unemployed. I have been fired from the job I was in twice. I can hardly find any other job bcs of my bad working experience on my cv.
    Since then, I realized that I am a slow learner. I was fired bcs I did mistakes for so many times and didn’t understand the instructions properly.

    Well, I have big problem with learning new thing. I used to be a very hardworker but still there always be some flaws on my work. My supervisor always mad at me like, “I’ve said it so many times!”. They did right thing. I didnt blame my previous supervisors who fired me. All I am blaming is my ability of learning and understanding.

    Because of this,I know my weakness well. This leads me to have a terrible feeling when it comes to talk to someone, I’m always getting nervous and panic when I have to explain something. That’s one of the reason why I got fired. I have bad communication skill. Why, because I am afraid if I’m doing wrong.

    Ever since the last day of my working, I haven’t applied for any job yet. I have traumatic feeling about getting fired. My mom always scold me and asking why I’m not looking for another Job. In fact, I never told this to anyone before include, (especially) my parents. I told them that my contract was terminated because I had to handle another job outside my Job desc. I didn’t tell them the honest reason.

    I can’t even share this to my bestfriends bcs they are the people I am envy with. They are the people I wish I could be. They are now having good position in their company with good salary. I feel so much intimidated when we go out for cinema or just hanging out,, they’re all proudly spending their self-earn money and sharing their working experience. Meanwhile, I am still using my parent’s money,, and the leftover money from my last salary.Things are getting harder for me when they ask what my daily activities are. In fact Im just doing nothing at home.

    I keep telling lies to everyone. I am really afraid to tell the truth and to be judged. Having myself as a slow learner has already become the most hurtful thing I have to face.

    Now I am fighting so much againts my own anxiety and low self esteem. I am so afraid what if I never get a proper job.
    I am really expecting for you to do me a favor about what to do? What am I supposed to do ?
    I am so much thankful for your help..

    Best Regards
    Cho Ryeon Hwang
    (초련황)

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